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Day 1
Living consciously means to me...
If I bring 5% more consciousness to my activities today...
If I pay more attention to how I deal with people today...
If I bring 5% more awareness to my most important relationships...
When I reflect on how I would feel if I lived more consciously...

Day 2
Self responsibility means to me...
Independence means to me...
Thinking for myself means...
Trusting my own mind means...
If any of what I wrote above is true . . .

Day 3
If I bring 5% more awareness to my most important relationships...
If I bring 5% more awareness to my insecurities...
If I bring 5% more awareness to my deepest needs and wants...
If I bring 5% more awareness to my emotions...

Day 4
Sometimes I keep myself passive when I...
Sometimes I make myself helpless when I...
If I avoid responsibility for my life and well being...
If I take 5% more responsibility for my life and well being...
If I take 5% more responsibility for the attainment of my goals...

Day 5
If I bring a higher level of self-esteem to my dealings today...
If I insist on living with impeccable integrity...
If I am 5% more self accepting today...
If I am 5% more conscious of my charisma goals...
If I were unafraid of failure...

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  • Albert Wang Shieng Loi

    Reply Reply July 31, 2017

    Thanks for this lesson on confidence, as it Really helped me a lot to understand myself and the concept and logic of confidence.
    I just finished my hypnosis practitioner course a week ago, so I could see, relate and use these 2 together.

    My commitment with myself is to behave and do things with integrity ie. mind, heart, words and actions in one accord.
    Especially in getting rid of addiction to pornography, and control myself and be focused in achieving best towards what is good for the purpose of life and my dreams.

    My immediate dream or goal is to be financial stable and freedom by creating a business.
    No capital at the moment, cant borrow from bank, so I start with writing an ebook and sell online with my own website and internet marketing skills I learned from a course earlier. Ebook content and research are on half way. Ebook’s theme is on removing pornography addiction and focus on what is good in life.
    Owed a lot of debts as I failed in investments before and need money to solve problems in life. If I want to, I may borrow little capital from mom to start a small physical business with her, but not too convenient as we are not at a same place and I need to first clear the little old stocks that was remained.

    I studied UK law degree in Malaysia, currently im waiting for the final result, if smooth then in September I will study the Certificate in Legal Practice (CLP) for 9 months as a “license” for those who didnt study Malaysia law, then chambering/internship for 9 more months. So at the moment I want to create business and will do the Kangen Water direct sale after I find a place to move (want to rent a new and comfortable place to stay), so that I can be prepared to be financial freedom, buy house and marry etc.

    So currently first target: Finish Ebook and start the online business, find a new place to move, and clear old stocks.
    Second: Enlarge online business, direct sale business, and create a business (no idea yet until the old stocks are cleared).
    Purpose is to clear debts, be financial freedom, marry, and have business backgrounds after becoming a politician in the future.

    Don’t know whether any businessmen out there willing to share his secrets and ways, many whom I have known and encountered dont really tell their secrets behind. This business world is real, unless I pay and attend course then they will share bits. As if I need to build from scrap by my own little by little, fall and learn, and when I become a moderately successful businessman I can get a coach like Anthony Robbins or his student Chen An Zhi a top coach in China. This is how I see my ladder climbing process.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply August 1, 2017

      I’m happy to share what I’ve learned of business if you have questions. My initial reaction is that you want to be sure you are solving a need in the market in a place where customers are looking. I’m not sure how pornography addiction would do on Amazon, but if you explore reddit NoFap, you may learn quite a bit about your potential customer. I think that would be an invaluable step.

      Honestly, I think ebooks are a difficult way to make a significant amount of money, but I think the process of creating will still be valuable to you. Either way, you’ll have chapters which could serve as blog posts if you eventually go the route of creating more content in that realm πŸ™‚

  • Sabine

    Reply Reply July 30, 2017

    I love the patterns breaking! It just lights the other person up so much. Defiintely gonna keep doing this!

  • Federico Comandini

    Reply Reply July 17, 2017

    Hello Charlie, first of all I want to thank you since you have given powerful tools and insights in this module. regarding the sentence complitions, I found out about three main subjects. The first two I kind of knew before hand. The first is that I won’t work as much in my businesses as I would like in order to achieve my dreams and call myself a true entrepreneur. The second one is about my daily interactions with people, specially people I don’t know. I feel like I won’t engage with them as much as I would like and as much as I need to in order to make progress in my business and my personal life. The third, which I found out with the sentences, is that I kinda have a battle with myself daily. Part of me tells me to do the first two things but the other part stops me. I think this battle kinda worns me out. I believe that the three of them are based on a fear of failure and rejection. The exercise I plan on doing, is one I think acts on all three subjects. I plan to reach out to my partner, tell him that I will get 2 new clients in a week and that he should reach out to me at the end to see if I made it. What do you think? Thanks before hand.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply July 17, 2017

      Great idea! I would make one change: switch from a result to a process goal. Getting 2 clients is a result and it’s not completely in your control. You could do excellent work and just have a bad week. BUT making 10 outbound phone calls or attending 2 trade shows and setting 5 follow up meetings or writing 3 blog posts are all process goals.

      So pick the best thing you can do that gets you clients and set your goal around that. The results will flow from focusing on the process and adjusting it as needed πŸ™‚

      • Federico Comandini

        Reply Reply July 18, 2017

        Great advice! thank your for your help πŸ™‚

  • Sven

    Reply Reply July 14, 2017

    Okay so I want to take more action ​and show more courage (need to make this quantifiable).

    I currently work as a mover. I really don’t like the work, as it doesn’t fulfill me and feels somewhat degrading to me.
    But: it is an excellent job to practice my charisma skills (because I meet new people every day) + it has very flexible hours.

    My goal is to get my own business off the ground by the end of this year and slowly transition into this full-time.
    I make graphic designed resumes to help people get noticed more when applying for a job.
    I already have some great help with this from my two employers,
    they help me get on my way and they meet with me once a month to see how I’m doing. So that’s pretty awesome too.
    I’m focused on writing the business plan at this stage.

    I used to procrastinate a lot, I feel I’m starting to get a grip on this, but it could still be improved.
    Also retaining long term focus is an issue.
    I feel I let these things sabotage my progress.

    ​I do have some fear about it not working out, but I can’t let that hold me back any more.
    Any suggestions on how to anchor my commitment fully?
    My thoughts were to make an agreement on deadlines with a close friend of mine and if I don’t make the deadline, I pay him money.
    Or is that too much negative reinforcement?

    Thanks for thinking along!

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply July 15, 2017

      I actually personally love the tactic of paying money for missed deadline. The trick will be setting effective deadlines and goals to hit within those deadlines. For instance, writing a business plan probably isn’t the most important first step in my opinion, interviewing potential customers is – or maybe even just learning about marketing. So I like the action plan and the incentive structure, I just think you’ll have to pay special attention to which goals you set. If you like, feel free to send me an email and I can go into more detail on the business end πŸ™‚

  • Charles Wong

    Reply Reply June 25, 2017

    hey charlie! i’m refering to day 5 where we write down our first step here. a huge thing that i needhelp with is my ability to socialise.

    here’s a little background – i did try last time in the past to be more social, get out there, and make mistakes, but i don’t know whether its an issue of a lack of awareness, or an issue of a different in interests, that i really struggle. my key interests are business and self growth, and i literally do not make time to rest. i just act fun and social in front of friends. i try my best to be fun and intersting, and in the past, this person that meant the world to me told me that i was only trying hard to be interesting when i actually wasn’t. now i’ve mellowed down but my deepest desire has always been to to be able to socialise.if you compare health, wealth, and relationships, the biggest hole in my heart that needs filling is my relationships.

    so now, here i am watching your videos carefully, and taking notes every day, i’m trying really hard to change my life. taking little steps.. holding eye contact with girls that intimidated me, smiling more, trying my best to appear more light hearted (before trust before respect before showing interest). but there is something about my gaze that makes them uneasy.. they always adjust their jacket in a “i’m covering myself” action haha. i’m trying to work on that!

    well right now my i would really like to make people feel comfortable when i’m talking to anyone. i’ve been running a music business for 5 years now with 3 full time staff, and we have more deals than we can handle now, all gotten from cold leads and closing deals purely with cold hard copies of pdf and with a strong offering. but sigh i can’t help thinking.. how much bigger we would have grown if i actually knew how to make friends. and make people at ease when around me. my life is going to change if i knew how to socialise.. and that’s why i’m here. not just for business expansion. i’m tired of feeling lonely and awkward.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 26, 2017

      Sounds like you have a strong “why.” That’s great. It will keep you motivated as you go.

      If you do the action guide in order, I think you’ll be in good shape. I’ve tried to organize things so that the big wins come first and that should give you good momentum. Also, if you can get a coworker or business friend to join you in the journey, that would help a lot. It gives you a second pair of eyes to see some of the things you may be doing that put other people off. So if you can think of someone who might benefit, ask them to do the course with you πŸ™‚

      • Charles Wong

        Reply Reply June 30, 2017

        charlie, thanks for commitment to this page and answering all of us.

        i can feel my life changing as we speak. i just had a 1 hour long casual conversation with a client (she was still leading the convo as i haven’t finished your “expert conversation” and “storytelling” modules), but i didn’t feel as annoyed as i would have in previous years. i actually felt a deeper connection, simply because i had responded to her in the correct way. i walked away feeling touched that whoa.. connections with humans feel awesome.

        i wish i had went for this course way earlier. thanks charlie! i’ll check in again when i’ve finished this course =)

        • Charlie

          Reply Reply June 30, 2017

          That’s amazing Charles! I think Expert Conversations will just help you take it to the next level πŸ™‚

  • Amer Rashed

    Reply Reply June 20, 2017

    Hi Charlie,
    I’ve been in your program for a year but never did it seriously because of … procrastination.

    so this is my first ever comment and try to move forward. and here is my noob question:

    so the way sentence completion exercise is supposed to work is that I would be filling each sentence as I see fit for my personality and then need to get back to these notes whenever I feel uncomfortable and/or dropping some of the values that I am trying to fit into my everyday life. is this correct?

    • Amer Rashed

      Reply Reply June 21, 2017

      Alright, so not to bother you with answering, I did half of the confidene module in one shot because the week is almost over, and yes the outcome was significantly powerful, who would have expected that writing some ideas that resonate in our minds can be be of such effect.
      I am even thinking now of carrying over this technique to other aspect of my life after finishing this whole thing, it could apply to what my business path might be, how I my next year roadmap to be, what are my expectstions of how I am raising my child (even though this is proven to be the most complicated delimma ever existed).
      I will get back here after I use what I learned from the confidence module.
      And maybe will document some of the other things ofter months from now.

      • Charlie

        Reply Reply June 22, 2017

        Haha, cruising through at top speed!

        To answer your first question, simply taking the time to write those sentences once a day is the bulk of it. Most of the time, what stops us from doing the things we need to is that we don’t admit the truth to ourselves. The sentences force you to admit the truth.

        Once you’ve done that, you may want to make a personal commitment to change things. In my case, when I discovered that I was really disappointed in myself for continuing in a job I wasn’t passionate about, I made a plan to leave within 6 months. Even just beginning the planning process made my self-esteem rise

  • Jhosangela Ramirez

    Reply Reply June 20, 2017

    Hi Charlie. Let me start with saying that your page has really helped me a lot. I know that I still need to work some issues but I have been more conscious about what are the things I need to work on. So I am in the last day and the thing that stood out the most, is to care less what other people think of me, and also the afraid of failure. That issue has taken me to being so uptight and to show myself like a quiet and insecure person. I found really difficult to talk in reunions, and parties etc etc. So I think that my goal is to found one moment in my day where I dont feel comfortable and to speak, say something. Maybe about me , It doesnt need to be so deep but maybe to try to show myself has a I really am. Let me know if you have some tips for me. And Thanks a lot for your help.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 22, 2017

      Great goal!

      The big thing is that you’re going to want to pick a specific time and place where you tend to feel uncomfortable beforehand. Because if you leave it vague, you might let the moment slip by. So if you know there is a person or a place (like the reunion you mentioned) where you almost always are quiet, set the intention to speak up at that specific event πŸ™‚

  • Eric Tompson

    Reply Reply June 16, 2017

    Hey Charlie,
    Could do with some advice on a problem I often face that I think is related to confidence.
    Sometimes when I either start talking to someone about a topic, or I comment on what the other person’s saying, I often stumble on what I’m trying to say.

    This can be really awkward sometimes as it creates moments where I’ll say something just for the heck of me speaking cause I either want to make conversation with someone, or show that I’m listening to what they’re saying. Sometimes it might also be when they ask me a question that catches me off guard. Basically I’ll just end up trying to go on with what I’m saying if I’ve stuffed up to try and fix it, only to dig myself an awkward conversation hole.

    On the other hand, stopping what I’m saying all together doesn’t feel assertive and is equally awkward. I’m wondering if there’s a good way to fix this issue? It happens often enough to annoy me and really dampens a lot of interactions I have.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 17, 2017

      A few things:

      First you don’t have to be so self-critical. A lot of people overestimate how awkward they make the other person feel. Really, they’re more focused on what they feel (not what you’re doing) and by convincing yourself things are horribly awkward, you only make yourself handle it worse.

      Second, try slowing down. If you’re stumbling it may be because you’re forcing yourself to speak to quickly. Taking a deep breath before you speak can really help with this.

      Third, call yourself out. Sometimes you just gotta say “And now I’ve totally lost track of what I was saying and I’m rambling. But you can imagine how good that point would have been if I’d made sense ;-)” Being playful with yourself like that breaks the awkward spell and often gets the other person contributing again.

      • Eric Tompson

        Reply Reply June 20, 2017

        Thanks, sounds good, I’ll give this a go πŸ˜€

  • Jason Woon

    Reply Reply June 13, 2017

    Hello Charlie

    I’m on day 3 here. I find that sometimes when I try and break the pattern with someone, what comes out of my mouth is outrageous and sometimes downright insulting. For example, the other day I complimented the consultant on his haircut, and I asked him if he went to a salon for that, and he didn’t respond well. Perhaps he was thinking, why is the student trying to suck up and why is my hair even relevant. I find if I wait for them to break the pattern first, then I can launch into it but then can be overdone as well. It’s a bit of a slippery slope and I struggle to find the balance, especially with superiors. Any tips?

    Thanks
    Jason

    • Jason Woon

      Reply Reply June 15, 2017

      Alright just watched day 5. In terms of the thing that stood out the most, it was being kind to other people and bringing value to the lives of other people. I’ve been described as a control freak and like things my way. I don’t handle criticism and setbacks well (I can fake it sometimes) and have high expectations for myself and other people. I get frustrated by other people’s mistakes and laziness. I am perfectly happy with my superficial self but what I want to change is to stop being mean and cynical. Positive feedback works wonders on me and makes me a generally better person. I want to do the same for others, to think less critically of other people and learn to appreciate their good things, so that I may brighten their day and bring value. I guess a tangible goal could be to say a nice thing (or two) about 5 people each day. Not just say it but to look for something positive (that’s not superficial, my girlfriend hates physical compliments) but instead to comment positively on someone’s character / something they worked hard to do.

      • Jason Woon

        Reply Reply June 15, 2017

        I mean to say it to their faces obviously.

      • Charlie

        Reply Reply June 16, 2017

        Absolutely great goal! And a situation I can relate to as well.

        Difficulty in praising others (and a focus on receiving praise for oneself) often comes from a comparative mind. That comparative mind often comes from a feeling of “not being enough.” It also is associated with perfectionism and a critical nature.

        Your action goal is great: noticing the good in others and praising them would be a great habit to build.

        You may also want to check out this video for a deeper discussion of what I suspect you might be experiencing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcH6tFugYfo

        Kudos for working this πŸ™‚

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 16, 2017

      The first issue could be with authenticity. So was it a genuine compliment? Did he actually have a good haircut that would need a salon to make happen?

      Light joking is typically the best way to break the patten with all kinds of people, superiors included. Classic example: if you meet the consultant at a crowded networking event, most people say “Wow, it sure is crowded here, you must feel pretty rushed.” Nothing wrong with that. But a light joke that breaks the pattern could be, “Well this is a relaxing environment for you. I’m sure you’re just swimming in free time today.” You’re basically just saying the opposite and expanding upon it. It takes a bit of practice, but it’s a great and consistent way to effectively break patterns πŸ™‚

      • Jason Woon

        Reply Reply June 16, 2017

        Hey Charlie

        Your dedication to this website is phenomenal. Honestly, I feel you truly wish to help people which boggles my mind because you’re basically taking on everyone’s problems one at a time. Thanks so much and I feel I’ve already been helped.

        The haircut thing was probably not super authentic, it was pretty automatic for me. It wasn’t too bad, I’ve certainly had worse, but I like your idea of ‘saying the opposite’.

        Thanks for the link, I saw it when it first came out, thanks for sharing your stories and hope you’re in a better place now, Charlie. I watched the whole thing again and certainly got some new things from it. In fact, in a span of one hour, I’ve had to do the ‘eye scramble, self-love and spread’ multiple times already. I just get so irate over every little thing. I’ve got better at delaying my reaction to things, and over time it just washes over and I don’t end up saying or doing something I might regret later. Although this method sometimes makes me a little passive-aggressive when I’m in a bad mood so I’ve just gotta hit the gym or lock myself in my room.

        I guess this is all inner game and I have to work on that marble pillar of self-love. You mentioned that you have other methods, did you end up making videos to them?

        • Charlie

          Reply Reply June 17, 2017

          I appreciate you noticing the effort! Thanks so much man πŸ™‚

          It’s still a work in progress. The method I am playing with now is related to influencing my beliefs about the world and myself. The big problem I have run up against is that it is easy to practice self-love when you’re upset, like after a break up (because you’re constantly reminded of that upset feeling) but I’ve slipped when things are going good. Unfortunately, like the gym, you’ve got to keep the practice going to see positive lasting results. I think I’m going to make a bet on it with a buddy to make sure I do it every day – likely starting in July.

          In terms of other things to experiment with, this article gave a number of other suggestions. I’ve only lightly tested them, but worth taking a look all the same: http://highexistence.com/my-radical-realization-about-self-love/

          Either way, I’ll share what I’ve got once I have it to the point of a “system.” Don’t want to overload you guys on things that I’m not 100% behind πŸ™‚

    • Charles Wong

      Reply Reply June 25, 2017

      hey! sorry for butting in but i actually think that its an asian thing to be suspcious of compliments. i’ve tried sincere compliments too , and i’ll either always get a huge rude laugh or the person looking suspiciously at me like i have ulterior motives. we asians just don’t know how to react to compliments. I find that something that helped a little for me would be to drop a casual compliment and then change the subject quickly, preferably to a question that they can answer immediately.. i could be wrong, but just sharing!

  • Jamshed Ashurov

    Reply Reply June 6, 2017

    Hey Charlie,
    How to be more confident before important sport games or speeches? I have already practiced the skills in the social places, and they worked well. But when I do the same drills before the speech or a sport game, I still feel pretty nervous.

    Hope you are enjoying your day!

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 7, 2017

      Big thing in those situations is going to be remaining calm. So for that, maintaining open body language and forcing yourself to take long, deeper breaths will help keep your heart rate in check. In addition, vizualising your performance beforehand, will help a ton (check out our first video of Conor McGregor on YouTube for more of this)

  • Eric Tompson

    Reply Reply June 2, 2017

    I’m not sure if this is specific enough, but I think the biggest thing I need to work on is my actual self esteem. I think I didn’t do the sentence stems quite right…I wrote what results I’d get from the sentences instead of writing what I actually do to achieve those results. If there was one goal I would have though, it’d be to get in a relationship (as in, a girlfriend) that is very healthy and is of great value to me. I’ve been in relationships in the past but I feel like none were the healthiest and I really got in them for the wrong reasons. I took any relationship I could get as a means for my security, but I want to be picky this time and actually get in a good, healthy relationship. I think my biggest thing I need to work on to achieve this is to grow my confidence in talking to women more randomly, similar to your story. Before I would only get in relationships if they practically came to me first, or if it was somehow an easy opportunity. I wanna get to the point though where if I see someone attractive who I want to get to know more, I have the courage to go and walk up to them and start a conversation.
    My first step towards that is for tonight, I’m going to talk to an attractive waitress I keep seeing at a restaurant I go to. I guess this was also part of Wednesday’s goal, but I’ve actually been saving that to tonight when I see this person too, so I’ll be able to do 2 days in one πŸ™‚

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply June 6, 2017

      Whether or not you did it right, it looks like you came to the right conclusion! I hope it goes well, but the important thing is that in setting and hitting that goal of simply speaking to her and maybe asking her on a date, you’ll boost your self esteem massively, setting you up for success in the future πŸ™‚

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