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Day 3 Resources (Wednesday) - "Where are you from" worksheet

Day 4 Resources (Thursday) - "What do you do?" worksheet

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  • Hershie T

    Reply Reply August 1, 2017

    Hey Charlie,
    I’m Hershie. Every time I introduce myself I almost always get the exact same response. “Like the chocolate?”, and I usually laugh and say “its short for Hershikka”. Ever since I was 12 I’ve been trying to think of a…cooler response than that with no avail. I feel like a more interesting response would make a great first impression, but I just can’t think of one. Can you help?

  • Karen Johnson

    Reply Reply August 1, 2017

    Hi Charlie,
    i am writing a novel and want to show a character that has Charisma.
    What characters have you read about in books or TV shows that you think have Charisma?
    All i can think about Tony Soprano or any character that Denzel Washington plays, and Diana Ross.
    What characters are your picks?
    Thanks
    Karen

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply August 1, 2017

      People seem to love Harvey Specter from Suits. I haven’t watched a ton of it. James Bond comes to mind as well.

      When I think of real life people, I think of Craig Ferguson, Oprah Winfrey, and Will Smith near the top of the list 🙂

  • Mony Chhim

    Reply Reply July 30, 2017

    Day7 Report:

    Internal results:
    Now my eye contact is really solid, and I’m really surprised to see how most people avoid eye contact during conversations! Plus I get much better at memorizing names and placing them in the conversations!

    External results:
    I’m able to establish a quicker rapport with people I’ve just met and I generally feel much more confident.

    I’m so happy about the results and the evolution! And it’s just been 1 week 😀

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply August 1, 2017

      Great job my man!

  • Daniel Vekhter

    Reply Reply July 30, 2017

    A weekend reflection:

    for me, it’s best to simply take the weekend off of learning and being and growing. i think in my life there’s a balance between self-improvement and just being the way i am.

    so i won’t be consciously practicing over the next 5 weekends. i’ll be recharging, thinking, being, playing, and then i’ll be jumping into the next week with newfound energy!

    just my two cents

    “the man in me will hide sometimes to keep from being seen, that’s just because he doesn’t want to turn into some machine” bob dylan

    i think if people are always “on” they don’t know how to chill, and they can become, well, tools

    i think you wrote an email to something of this effect a while back called play when you were at carnival, if i’m remembering right 🙂

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply August 1, 2017

      Yep – I’m definitely of that mindset. If weekends off helps you recharge, by all means, take the time

  • Daniel Vekhter

    Reply Reply July 30, 2017

    Days 4 report:

    I got asked what do you do at a shabbat dinner. I said: i’m a neurologist. Then I corrected myself and said: I hit people with a hammer for a living. People chuckled, but after that I didn’t really have time to elaborate too much as the conversation shifted. I think the guy who asked just wanted data to put me in a box, he didn’t really want an elaboration of my values and who i am in that moment. I think that sometimes people are “surface curious” — they want the surface data but aren’t really interested in the deeper stuff. Or at least, they are stuck in a pattern of asking the surface answers and don’t want to get into why my job is interesting to me. Thoughts?

    Day 5 report:

    In my day job, I have ample opportunity to practice eye contact with superiors. I am constantly delivering oral presentations to senior doctors and am generally lousy at eye contact. I delivered a presentation and made eye contact with everyone in the room. The senior doctor was browsing the computer at the time but I still attempted, and I think it went over very well. Also, I noticed how my friend didn’t make eye contact during a story she told. Also, I was walking with a group of friends and was telling a story but eye contact would have been somewhat distracting as we were focusing on walking, so I let that go for that situation.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply August 1, 2017

      Some people are definitely asking out of “politeness” and truly don’t care. For them, don’t elaborate. They aren’t looking to connect in that moment. Have a great time, go back to being fun and building trust and respect in conversation and they will be more likely to genuinely care about your story. Or they’ll move out of your life with nothing lost 🙂

  • Parsa Shahbodaghi

    Reply Reply July 27, 2017

    Hey Charlie! I’ve been doing the week one exercises for a couple months now, and I’ve gotten better and better at performing these actions. It seems like awesome things are much more likely to spontaneously happen to me. Last week, I made a good first impression on someone and she invited me to an awesome party!! I made a bunch of new friends, and I had a great time. It’s amazing how bringing positivity and establishing trust are so incredibly powerful. Again, kudos to you!

    Here’s my answer to the “Where are you from?” question:

    I’m from Boston, born and raised. I love taking advantage of its incredible academic environment, which has given me a lot of opportunities for personal enrichment. It’s a great place to be, but I’m also expanding my horizons by traveling more.

    And for “What do you do?”:

    Right now, I’m working as a heart-monitoring technician, where I put heart monitors on people and look at the squiggles that come out of them. I’ve enjoyed my job immensely, especially the aspect where I can connect strangers, but now I’m looking for a position that better aligns with my passions. For now, it’s a means of pursuing my interests outside of work.

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply July 29, 2017

      So I would drive one level deeper, for instance

      “I’m from Boston, born and raised. I love taking advantage of its incredible academic environment because I’m the type of person who loves to learn new things and be surrounded by people who feel the same…”

      You can apply the same thing to travel and why you’ve enjoyed your job. Spell out what makes you tick and it makes that connection much easier to make 🙂

  • Daniel Vekhter

    Reply Reply July 27, 2017

    day 3 report:
    was asked where i live and contrasted where i currently live (a studio) to where i lived in the past (a coop house with chickens and other people). she asked me why i moved and i said a boring answer: wanted to be on my own. i didn’t tell her a great story about house drama which could have been entertaining.

    day 4:
    what do you do?
    i hit people with a hammer for a living
    haha, really?
    i’m actually a neurologist. it’s nerdy, but it’s a good fit for me. i actually went to med school with the aim of curing aging and death. when i was 20 i was really afraid of that. now, i’m less afraid. i’ve become more interested in getting the most from the life that i have. within medicine, neurology lets me do that because it gives me little flashes of insight into how brains work. for instance, you can have a stroke and develop a foreign accent. or a seizure triggered by a specific song. so part of neurology is about puzzle solving, diagnosis, and appreciating these curiosities. but i also like connecting with people: working in the bronx, i meet lots of fun characters in my clinic. in the future, i hope to combine neurology with my other passions, movement and meditation

  • Anonymous

    Reply Reply July 27, 2017

    day 3 report:
    was asked where i live and contrasted where i currently live (a studio) to where i lived in the past (a coop house with chickens and other people). she asked me why i moved and i said a boring answer: wanted to be on my own. i didn’t tell her a great story about house drama which could have been entertaining.

    day 4 report:
    what do you do?
    i hit people with a hammer for a living
    haha, really?
    i’m actually a neurologist. it’s nerdy, but it’s a good fit for me. i actually went to med school with the aim of curing aging and death. when i was 20 i was really afraid of that. now, i’m less afraid. i’ve become more interested in getting the most from the life that i have. within medicine, neurology lets me do that because it gives me little flashes of insight into how brains work. for instance, you can have a stroke and develop a foreign accent. or a seizure triggered by a specific song. so part of neurology is about puzzle solving, diagnosis, and appreciating these curiosities. but i also like connecting with people: working in the bronx, i meet lots of fun characters in my clinic. in the future, i hope to combine neurology with my other passions, movement and meditation

    • Charlie

      Reply Reply July 27, 2017

      This is truly fascinating! The only question I’m having is whether you should break it into parts, because I feel like people might ask a lot of questions if you pause for a moment on the bit about seizures and foreign accents. It’s all powerful, so just experiment with different pause points 🙂

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